The Man Who Found The Lump: My Husband's Plea

We often talk about the person who goes through cancer, but not enough about the one who stands beside them. My husband has always been my quiet strength - steady, loving, and strong - but in October 2024 he shared something that took my breath away.

My husband put a post on social media that was very unlike him. He's such a private person but has seen the impact that my honesty has had in the social media posts I had made and wanted to be honest about his experience so that others don't watch their loved ones go through the same thing.

He decided to write his own version of my monthly reminder post and what came out was one of the most heartfelt things I’ve ever read. He is the one who found the lump, held my hand through treatment, and helped me laugh when I thought I’d forgotten how. What he wrote deserves its place here, as part of our story.

These are his words — unfiltered, deeply human, and full of love.

For those that know me, they know I am very private person. So bear with me, being open about what is really going on doesn't come easily to me....

We are fast approaching nearly 2 years since I found the lump Yes me with my hands on a Sunday morning in bed.... Not afraid to admit it even at my age.

Please please can I ask when you read this to grab your loved one, use your hands and have a good feel of men's parts, females parts, your own or someone else's it really doesn't matter, but just have a feel. 1 in 2 people still don't check themselves, so if you need help I'm more than willing to offer my hands... 🤣.

The last 2 years has turned our lives upside down and we are utterly blessed that Julie is Cancer free. For those that follow her and her updates you will know she suffers from Chronic Pain caused by the Chemo, leaving her on crutches around the house and a mobility scooter when we go out.

Watching this on a daily basis, hurts!!! Really really HURTS.... It leaves me with a lot of emotions I have for the last 2 years bottled up and for most part struggled to deal with. I am starting to open up more to people, albeit only very recently to allow me to process things. I don't always want to talk about it, but understand talking helps. To those that have lent their ear thank you. You know who you are.

Julie as we all know remains so positive as we all do, to my children you have shown amazing resilience over these last 2 years adapting and helping, you make me so proud as a father.

Julie, 27 years with you, our relationship has always been so easy, this has tested us to the limit at times but we grow stronger together.

To end my first and maybe last post about Breast Cancer, take hold of everything in your life, enjoy, have fun, laugh and smile.

Pictured is Luke and I on our recent trip to Lanzarote. We had a boys afternoon out and watched the local football team, to support Breast Cancer Awareness month, they played in their Pink strip. How could I not buy and wear the strip in support......

Cancer changes everything — but it also shows us the depth of love that holds us together. So, this month, don’t just check yourself. Check on each other. 💗

JuJu x